if only you could see the stranger next to me...

-- this post has been removed due to people [the wrong people, mind you] taking offense or believing this post has been written about them. this was never meant to offend anyone or to cause any personal harm. it was merely what was going on in my head at the time, and three examples who i thought would not read my posts. not that they wouldnt read them, but did not have online access so i had no fear of them coming across these posts. it has come to my attention that someone who does have access to these posts read this one and thought it was about them. and in that case, i understand hurt feelings and concern because these things were not something you would want to hear about either a) yourself or b) the person you are with. but let me assure you [SA] that nothing in this post was about you. i am deeply sorry if you felt it was, and if you would like an explanation i am happy to give you one. i am not trying to lose any friends by these, and would not throw away years of valued friendship in a single moment of self-richeous blog posting. i value friendships [all friendships and yours inparticular] too much to be that careless about these things.

so, i will keep in mind in further posts that when making references to touchy situations that they may be taken by some people as personal attacks when they are not directed at those people at all. i apologize again for any harm this post caused and will tailor my future posts to be either a) clear in direction and situation or b) general enough that people i know are not involved. again, i am sorry for any confusion.